Does it matter whether I file first or my spouse files first?
Generally speaking, it will not matter who files first. Prior to 1974, parties had to prove who was at fault for the breakdown of the marriage in order to obtain a divorce. Accordingly, it mattered back then. Now, Connecticut is a no-fault state, meaning you do not need to prove fault to obtain a divorce. As such, there is really no legal effect of being either the plaintiff or the defendant. That being said, some clients have a preference (“I want to be defendant because I do not want this divorce” or “I want to be plaintiff so the Court knows I am seeking the divorce because of what he or she has done).